Essential Advice From a Divorce Attorney

Deciding to end your marriage, no matter who is at fault, is a sad time for all parties involved. You are going to be going through a wide range of emotions while you deal with this stage of your life. A divorce attorney can help you through the process. While you know you must take your time and find the best representative for you, there are a few things your new lawyer would like you to know to make your working relationship the best.

Only Trust Your Lawyer

You will hear from everyone on how the process is supposed to be. Your divorce attorney is going to work hard to do the best for you. Unless “he” or “she” is the judge, and they will not be in their own proceedings, there is no way to know for certain what the judge will do. Take some deep breaths and trust your lawyer.

There Are Times It Won’t Be Fair

You will be told something by your lawyer and your first instinct is to say “that’s not fair.” Sadly, there are going to be times during this process that it’s not fair. However, your representative is going to work with you to make it as fair as possible. Your lawyer will want you to take a deep breath and look at everything you’ve already accomplished. He or she will also help to ensure that your goals are realistic, especially in cases of custody. Unless you have cause, making sure your ex never sees the kids again isn’t fair or realistic. You may have to be ready to settle for something like residential custody.

Obey the Court Order

You need to know that if the order comes from the courts, it’s not a suggestion. You need to do whatever the court orders you to do. A good divorce attorney will draft the orders to be presented to a judge, in a way that is clear, detailed, specific, and doesn’t contain a lot of legalese. If you get an order and are unsure what it means, ask. You don’t want to be on the wrong side of the judge for violating the order.

If It’s Not a Court Order, It Doesn’t Matter

When you are going through the process, you are going to be told a lot of things. This could be anything from “we have to file taxes a certain way” to “I’m being forced to sell my home.” Unless there is a motion that has been signed by a judge making it an order, it’s not necessarily true.

The Only Person You Control Is You

Divorce is horrible and messy. As much as you’d like to control everything so that you don’t feel so helpless, there is only one thing under your control and that is yourself. A good divorce attorney will tell you what is going on and if your attitude is making the proceedings take longer. At that point, you need to take a deep breath, consult your lawyer to see what needs to change, and move forward. It’s hard but you can do it. Losing your temper or changing your mind ten times about a motion is not going to help.

Essential Advice For Your Kilimanjaro Climb!

Culminating at 5895 m (19341 feet), Mount Kilimanjaro is by far Africa’s highest and most majestic mountain! Here’s some advice on what to bring on your trekking odyssey!

Walking sticks

Whether you call them walking sticks, staffs, or trekking poles, they’re just indispensable for a comfortable walking journey!

Walking sticks will assist you during your climb, and support your knees on descents. Especially if you already have fragile knee joints!

For best support (and even better comfort), consider buying two sticks!

Boots

Your walking boots have to be solid and soft at the same time, the type that will resist the most extreme weather conditions out there!

Indeed, boots are perhaps the most important item you will purchase! Both in terms of your health and well-being. Make sure they fit you properly! Moreover, try them on before considering a purchase. They just have to be the right size!

Do this: put your foot in the shoe without tying the shoelace, and slide your foot forward until it hits the front of the boot. If you have one finger’s thickness of space at your heel, then the boot is made for you. If not, then it is either too big or too small (less than one finger space)!

Some key features to look for in boots are:

– Vibram, or comparable high rubber-content soles with deep lugs to provide better traction.

– Sturdy, high tops with padding to protect ankles while providing good ankle support. Boots with a stiff heel counter is also a big bonus, as it relieves your foot and ankle.

– Uppers made of leather or a leather/Cordura combination.

– Removable insoles for extra comfort and cushioning.

– Lacing system with D-rings and speed hooks to easily put and remove your boots.

– Sewn-in, gusseted tongues.

– Waterproof coating to ensure your feet stay dry at all times.

Socks

Pay special attention to the material of your socks. They can be made of:

– Cotton: Not a great idea while hiking. Cotton absorbs moisture and retains it.

– Ragg Wool: Way more comfortable, but you don’t have to be allergic to it.

– Acrylic: Not as resistant and much warmer than wool socks, although they do wick moisture away from the feet. Notice that some acrylic socks have extra cushioning, which can be interesting!

– Polypropylene: Primarily used in liners – thin socks worn beneath thicker main socks. Will wick moisture away from foot, and can also reduce friction between your foot and the shoe.

– Silk: Same purpose as polypropylene.

Sleeping Bags

Should be chosen wisely! Large variety of options, from “Down Sleeping Bags” (very resistant to water and cold), to “Hollowfibre” (synthetic fibre, dries rapidly), and “Thinsulate” (state-of-the-art synthetic fibre, economic, very light) types!

Important things to consider in a sleeping bag:

– Needs to fit your body (in width and length).

– Two-way zipper (for better ventilation).

– Insulated hood.

Daypacks

Preferably big, but not too big either! A 25-40 litre rucksack tends to fit most people needs.

Headlamps

A good head torch is essential as it leaves your hands free. Petzl Zoom Headlamps and Petzl Tikka are definitely worth it, although not the cheapest I agree.

Gloves

Two pairs highly recommended: a pair of wool or fleece gloves as a next to skin layer, and a second pair of waterproof gloves that go over the first pair!

A very good pair of gloves should not be underestimated if you want to keep your fingers healthy and intact!

Hats

Good-looking hats are important for sure, but as you know looks are not everything! Most importantly, a good hat is one that protects you from the sun, and also that fits easily into your backpack (or comfortably fastens to your belt, backpack, etc…). Furthermore, make sure it can provide good shade to your face, and that it “breathes”.

I just love some of those Rogue hats, don’t you?!

Thermal Beanie/Balaclava

Protects you from the wind and hinders frostbite. Not to be neglected!

Duffel Bags

A lightweight classic! Easy to stuff with your clothing and rolled socks.

Things to consider: a strong seam, good quality zippers (that can be padlocked), and short handles to pull your bag quickly if required.

Water Bottles

Drink, drink, and drink some more! Water is vital to appropriate acclimatisation, and so are water bottles! You should be able to carry 2-3 litres of water at any time!

Any water bottle is good really, although I must admit I really enjoy the Swiss Sigg types. They are eco-friendly, and reusable! Unless you’d rather go for hydration systems, with a tube from a bladder in your pack to your mouth; practical and very popular! The only disadvantage of such systems is they can freeze easily! Either way, be sure it won’t leak nor freeze.

Gaiters/Anklets

Very useful little pieces of materials that keep mud, rocks and to a certain extent water out of your boots! May even be utilized to keep ticks away!

Can be sweaty nevertheless.

Jacket & Trousers

Two words come to mind: comfort and waterproofing! The two items need to be waterproof, breathable and windproof.

ATTENTION PLEASE: No jeans! They absorb water, cling to the skin and make walking very difficult. Believe it or not, but wearing jeans can lead to hypothermia.